“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi

“We assume others show love the same way we do — and if they don’t, we worry it’s not there.”

Thank you. Lessons from the article Momma shared on my Facebook wall

7 Signs You're Hanging around the Wrong Crowd

"You need to know that everyone deserves love and respect without terms and conditions.  Everyone has a right to live their life the way they want.  Everyone has the right to be happy without feeling guilty.  No one has the right to hurt anyone.  No one deserves abuse of any kind.  No one is not good enough to be exactly who they are.  And yes, this includes YOU." 

"This is your life.  You may not be able to control all the things people do to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.  You can decide not to let their actions and opinions invade your heart and mind.  And above all, you can decide whom to walk beside into tomorrow, and whom to leave behind today." 

"Always keep in mind, first and foremost, that you have to treat yourself the way you want others to treat you.  The amount of abuse you tolerate in your relationships is often equal to the amount of abuse you heap on yourself."

7.  They aren’t there for you when you need them most.

"Surround yourself with those who believe in you, encourage you, and are willing to support you when it rains, not just when it shines.  It’s during the toughest times of your life that you’ll get to see the true colors of the people who say they care about you.  So don’t make too much time for people who rarely make time for you, or who only make time for you when it’s convenient for them.  Know your worth."

This is something that I am really beginning to learn and become more conscious and aware of. To keep and maintain relationships of people who are genuine and committed and to let go of the relationships that are anything but. 

To tell myself

To let go of relationships 

and the ideas of what I think the person and the relationship is

That is powerful.